A long Hiatus

Through no fault of mine, blogger was down (just for me), and was unable to post. On the Work side, nothing much. Got my posting, 12 hour workdays staring at me in the face. All quiet on the exercise front. No sweat for weeks.

What is this thing about engagement? So you hold a party telling everyone that you have 'committed' to getting married (not legally via ROM, not traditionally via wedding dinner) to this particular person, probably with some champagne and truffles, but you're not married, just boardcasting. Which seems kinda weird. Because if they're your friends, and you're head over heels into this guy, then theres probably no need to tell them that you have decided to 'till death do we part' with this bloke, since that was already a foregone conclusion. So whats the point? Is there a point? Celebrate your so called 'commitment'? And then? Celebrate it again at ROM? (Although i suppose i can accept the 'drama' scenario of broadcasting to your 'rival-since-fifth-grade' EX-girlfriend of your husband-to-be, but it seems awfully childish, but hey, vengence calms the soul better than say, winning toto).

Which brings me back to the topic of premarital sex. Of course it's wrong when it's practiced amongst minors. Wrong in the sense of economics (pregnancy, no $$ to deal with abortion, blah blah), not morally (although if its practiced WITH/ON minors, that's another story altogether, read: pedophile). Anyway, if it's two consenting adults, with legitimate financial means, and assuming adequate prior knowledge of biology, contraceptives and consequences (brimstone and the works if you're so inclined), then i dont think people should object to it, especially when the objection stems from religion, but is disguised with seemingly logical morals. There is NO need to bring to bear the legal apparatus of ROM, or the holy sanction of *insert theistic figure* to authorise your copulation. If you have 'committed' (whatever that means) to the relationship in your brain, then there can be no harm in premarital sex, is there? If she gets pregnant, hey, you're going to take responsibility, cos you're committed. If she doesn't, then hey, great. So wheres the harm?

The harm, i believe, stems from the fact that some humans are unable to comprehend the probability distribution inherent in all relationships. Some believe that the legal powers vested in that document they sign when they ROM somehow 'seals' and 'confirms' the commitment. But what has changed? Some ink got splashed on some pulp and suddenly you're committed? And seriously gals, do you think that this guy is committed to the relationship simply because he decided to sign something and hence incur legal consequence should he break that legal contract? Dont let your emotions run havoc over statistics (about 30% of marriages end up in divorce).

Of course, we could argue from the other side of the log. If you're committed, then where's the harm in ROM-ing? Since you're committed anyway, so with or without the legal consequences, nothing changes. No cost is incurred since you are not going to break that contract anyway. And i would have to agree with you ... IF you can just walk in anytime and ROM. But darling, you need to book in advance for a ROM date, but hey, your place is just a cab ride away. And if that's inconvenient, there's always mine. Heh.